Arranged Marriages - Changing trend

Arranged marriage is famous in India but this concept might sound impractical to the Western world or to the rest of the world. Arranged marriages are considered as one of the most valued and preferred marriages among rest of the marriages to the Indian families. Such marriage trends are not new in India. Earlier in India Child marriage was done. Such marriages were arranged even before the birth of child. Earlier the main motive to do so is to maintain the difference between the rich upper class society and the poor lower class society which is even now can be seen in India which in turn gave rise to the concept of arranged marriages in India. But now Inter cast arranged marriages are also getting famous in India. Basically arranged marriages are done in the presence and agreement of all family members. One advantage of arranged marriage is that it gives the parents of bride and bridegroom the control over almost all important family matters as well as on members. Success of arranged marriages depends on the understanding and acceptance of two families (which is most important).As the time is changing type of arranged marriages are also changing for example if both families are agreed then arranged love marriages can also be done and this trend is also gaining popularity and success rate is also high in such marriages.

Love Marriages

"Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry." Tom Mullen.

Have you ever tried defining the relationship between love and marriage? If yes, then you would have realized that both are synonymous to each other. Love is a dream and marriage is just an extension of this dream to reality. When both dream and reality comes together, it is the best thing that can happen to a person. Love is the subtle emotional wave within us, which is perennial in this world of death and passing away. The feeling of love is inexplicable - we start feeling good about things, which we earlier overlooked. The company of the person we love can make the most mundane chores seem like an exciting job. So, love can be best defined, as a feeling of bliss and ecstasy.

In India, love marriages are becoming a popular trend these days. While traditionally arranged marriage was the only option girls and boys had, the scenario has changed considerably. Parents, today, have a broader perspective and are fully aware of the nuances of caste system, thanks to education. They have understood that it is mutual understanding and feeling of love that matters most in marriage and not the caste and status of the bride/groom. Marrying the person you love is just like taking a step ahead in life and strengthening the already strong relationship, with commitment and efforts. However, love marriages are restrained to the city culture and are not a part of rural India, wherein arranged marriages are still viewed as the right thing.

Pros & Cons Of Love Marriage
Everything has two sides, similarly love marriage too has its own set of pros and cons. Talking about the positive aspects of love marriage, the best thing about it is that you marry the person, whom you love and whom you want to get married to, unlike what happens in arranged marriages. Love marriage gives an individual a time of knowing the person, whom he/she have decided to spend the entire life with. Also, you get an opportunity of being just what you are, as your partner would love you the way you are. As a couple, you are well-aware of your differences as well as your strengths, which makes it easier, to strengthen the bond of love after marriage.

You should, however, realize that the success of any long term relationship is based on effort and hard work. Love marriage can be the best thing that can happen to anyone, if there is effort and commitment from both the sides, but if either of the two lacks this, it can be one of the most difficult of relationships to maintain. One of the biggest disadvantages of love marriage is expectations. Since the two know each other so well, there is definitely increased expectations after marriage and when, one of the two fails to reach up to the standard, arguments and tiffs are bound to occur.

Another drawback of love marriage is inability to adjust with the family members. Mostly, love marriage involve coming together of two culturally and socially different families. As such, there are bound to be adjustment issues. However, you should realize that every relation has certain demands and certain needs to be met if it is to thrive and endure. So if you want to make your love marriage a success, then it would be best to give your nuptial some more time and commitment. Once this is done, rest assured, you will see your marriage blooming!!

Love vs. Arranged Marriages

Whenever we talk of Indian wedding, we try to associate it with arranged marriages. Due to the social structure, the concept of arranged marriage is prevalent in the Indian wedding scenario, since ages. On the other hand, love marriages were considered as a taboo among many Indian people, who do not have a modern outlook of life. For them, two people should tie the wedding knot only with the consent of their parents and the blessings of their relatives.

Nonetheless, love marriages are prevalent in almost all the societies of India, given the fact that they are still considered inferior to the weddings arranged by many parents in the country. People supporting the concept of love marriage strongly believe that it is very important to know the partner before marrying him/her. On the other hand, people who believe in solemnizing the wedding with the permission of parents and relatives think that arranged marriages are long lasting. In this article, we have discussed love marriage vis-à-vis arranged marriage.

Pros & Cons of Love Marriage and Arranged Marriage

When it comes to love marriage, the two people tie the nuptial knot only after falling in love with each other and probably, after knowing each other for a long time. They get ample time to explore both the good and the bad things about each other, well before marriage. This helps them to develop a good comfort level after marriage, very effortlessly. On the other hand, if two people do not know much about each other, when their marriage is arranged by their parents, then they might take some more time to develop a level of comfort, understanding after marriage. Here, love marriage scores more than arranged marriage in this case.

It is said that compromise is a factor that decides whether the marriage would work out or not. In case of love marriage, people might expect more from their partner, largely because they have fallen in love before marriage. This leads to lesser compromises, as the person expects more from his/her partner. On the other hand, compromise and adjustments form the foundation of arranged marriage, largely because the married couple does not have any preconceived notions or expectations from one another. The compromise factor might work wonders in case of most of the arranged marriages, while in love marriages, that might prove to be yet another cause for altercation. Due to this factor, people consider arranged marriage as long lasting and better than love marriage.

In case of arranged marriage, the married couple could resort to their parents or acquaintance at the time of financial crises or other problems. In addition, if the marriage proves to be a failure, they have a number of people around them to put seek support or to put the blame on. Their parents would come forward to solve the problems between the couple, if they have married with the elder's consent. This is the reason why arranged marriages are considered secure for the people in India.

On the other hand, the couples who have solemnized love marriage would have to tackle all their crises on their own, because they might have been separated from their family. Resentment drives the parents and the relatives to remain dormant in case the married couple wants any financial or moral support - a common sight seen in love marriages in India. Due to this factor, many people do not want to marry without their parent's consent, because they would be ultimately cut off from the family ties.